Parting Advice

When a young woman leaves her home as a bride

It is as if Qiyamah has arrived

Giving some parting advice to her departing daughter,

the mother said

Greet your mother-in-law with salaam when you arrive

Show respect to your father-in-law so that non may

say

This girl is without respect

Always honor your husband

And your life will be one of distinction and merit

Be happy and friendly to everyone in your house

You will then be their illuminating lantern

Never speak in high and harsh tones

And live with simplicity and good character

Take care not to walk around bare-headed

Keep your hair always covered and concealed

You are most fortunate to have your marriage made

Remember that you should now remain chaste forever

Sleep the earliest and be the first to wake up

Keeping your attention fixed on your heart

I understand well your uncertainties and fears

These are part of heat of your spark of love

When the sharp rays of sun extend from you

Remember to show the glow and serenity of the moon

as well

Do not hesitate to do the housework

Because this is the practice in the world throughout

When you apply yourself to the housework

You will gain respect and honor from all at home

Do the work of everyone young and old

And, our daughter, you will make a name for yourself

Never backchat with your husband

So that you may never be disgraced in the Hereafter

I have rendered my parting advice

I have taught you everything you need to know

I would sacrifice gold, silver, anything for you

Now marriage has come, waiting for you

May Allah Jalla Jalaalah bless this hour

Now that our parting has come beautifully.

Translated from an Urdu poem, taken from Tuhfat-e-Dulhan (Gift to Bride), Muhammad Haneef Abdul Majid

P.s: Mahukan yang kekal, mintalah pada Yang Maha Kekal. Impikan yang baik, jadilah yang terbaik.